So I'm not stupid or willfully ignorant. I know slashers get a bad rap in het circles. They think we're all out to ruin their safely bland world of heteronormativity. I know, because once upon a particularly strongwilled republican teacher inspired period of stupidity I was one of them. I
Anyway, the point is that they're all right. I, at least, want to turn every single heteronormative trope on its boring head. I'm a depraved little perv and I'm not ashamed of it--at least not within the confines of the internet. Try to talk to me about it in person and I become a spluttering, blochy red mess of incoherency. I'll read just about anything. I do, of course, have my squicks but staying clear of them in fandom has yielded marvelous results.
This is exactly what I do with the slash haters. Live and let live, I say. As long as they don't come to my territory and start flinging shit, I don't care about them. I certainly don't go to their territory and belittle them, as much as I feel like doing so sometimes. Now if a wanker comes and starts shit in slash territory they're fair game, but I digress. The point is, as long as they stay on their side of the fence and we stay on ours we coexist in tense peace. At least, when it comes to fandom.
Now, when a fellow slasher agitates, it's much harder to ignore. Like when they say something like "BDSM shouldn't even exist at all between Character X and Character Y because it's stupid. That could never happen. It would be out of character" I tend to take offense. Everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion but for heaven's sake. If you don't like a sub-genre there's a very simple solution: don't read it. I have several squicks myself: chan, furry, sex involving bodily functions (enemas, felching, watersport, scat, etc). But I realize that there are people who enjoy these things and I don't begrudge them that. Everyone has his or her own threshold for OOC and an idea of what that term even means to them. It's all very subjective, so I don't appreciate it when someone gets all lofty about some particular fanfictionalized behavior being "too OOC."
It's FANFICTION; lighten up people. Rule 34 exists for a reason, you know. Everything that's written has at least one person for a target audience.